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We’ve all experienced embarrassing moments, whether that means tripping down the stairs, spilling coffee on ourselves or smiling at our crush with food stuck in between our teeth.
我们都经历过尴尬时刻，比如从楼梯上滚下来，咖啡洒到身上，或是食物塞在牙缝里。
There’s a misconception that by the time you hit a certain age and settle into adulthood, then you’ll have it all together. But truthfully, we’ll all continue to have embarrassing moments for as long as we live.
我们误以为到了某个年纪，进入成年，一切就会变得井井有条起来。但真相是，只要我们活着，我们还会继续碰到尴尬的事情，
If making mistakes and being human is inevitable, then how can you cope with humiliating moments?
如果犯错和人之常情是不可避免的，那么我们该怎样面对尴尬时刻呢？
Here are six effective ways to handle embarrassment.
以下是面对尴尬的6种有效方式:
1. Don’t beat yourself up.
1. 不要自责。
It’s okay. Embarrassment often goes hand in hand with perfectionism. When you feel as though you aren’t meeting up to your own standards, it’s easy to fall into the trap of self-criticism. As a result, you may feel your next performance won’t go as well, based on past bad experiences. But don’t beat yourself up over your mistakes and failures. Instead, allow yourself to be imperfect and see your embarrassing moments as learning opportunities to get better. It’s okay to mess up.
没关系的。尴尬常与完美主义紧密相连。当你认为自己没有达到自己的标准时，很容易会陷入自责的圈套。因此，你会认为基于上次糟糕的经历，下次也不会有完美的表现。但是不要因自己的错误和失败自责，而是要允许自己不完美。将自己的尴尬时刻看做是变得更好的一次学习机会，搞砸了也没关系
2. Focus on the non-emotional details of the moment.
2. 专注尴尬时刻的非情感细节
The next time your mind decides to replay an embarrassing moment, try to steer your attention to the non-emotional details, such as the color of the shirt you were wearing, the setting or what the weather was like. This will help you detach from the memory. And you won’t remember it as intensely compared to when you focus on the negativity, which can stir up your embarrassed feelings again. When you experience heightened emotions, it makes it harder for you to let go and move on. We recommend that you concentrate on details that put you in a neutral state.
下次你在脑海里回放尴尬时刻的时候，试着将注意力放在非感情细节上。比如你那时穿的衣服是什么颜色，那天的天气如何，这样能够帮助你从那次记忆里抽离出来。与你专注于尴尬情绪的负面情绪相比，这么做你就不会对上次的尴尬记得那么清楚了。当经历加强的情绪时，只会让你难以忘记上次的经历，无法继续向前。所以我建议大家专注于那些中性状态下的细节。
3. Laugh it off.
3. 一笑置之。
the most effective way to handle embarrassment is being able to confront it directly. Although your first instinct might be to run away and hide, this will only prolong your unresolved feelings of embarrassment. That’s why it’s important to stick to the situation until you can alleviate your stress. Laugh it off to reduce tension. After all, staying in a serious mood will only influence you to hold on to the negativity.
应对尴尬最有效的方式，就是能够直接面对尴尬。虽然你的第一本能是逃到一个地方躲起来，但这样只会延长你的尴尬情绪，因此重要的是坚持面对这种情况，直到你的紧张得以消除。一笑而过口译缓解紧张情绪。毕竟待在一个糟糕的情绪中只会让你停留于负面情绪。
4.See it as a great storytelling opportunity.
4. 将这视为一个讲故事的机会
Have you ever shared a story starting with the statement? “Hey, remember that time when I did X, Y & Z? That was so funny.”More often than not, it’s your embarrassing moments that make the best stories you can share with your friends and family. While they’re happening, they may not be fun. But in retrospect, it’s easier to see how silly they are. The best part is knowing you survived, too. So the next time you want to die of embarrassment, think of your top three embarrassing moments remember that despite those occurrences, you’re still here in one piece.
你有没有以分享一个故事为开头的陈述？“嘿，记得我那次算XYZ的问题吗？当时太搞笑了。”通常讲自己的糗事是你能和朋友、家人分享的最好故事。发生时可能不开心，但是回想起来很容易发现好傻啊。好的一面是知道自己挺过来了。所以下次你要尴尬死的时候，回想一下自己最糗的三件事，而你仍毫发无损。
5. Talk it out with a close friend, lover or family member who won’t judge you for it.
5. 和亲近的朋友、爱人或家人谈论自己的尴尬
It’s difficult bottling up your emotions. So talk about your embarrassing moment with someone you trust. Instead of feeling bad about the situation, tell them what’s bothering you. It always helps to get support another perspective that may encourage you to find some positivity in the negative situation. In fact, the person you confide in may also share a similar embarrassing moment that happened to them. It’s always a relief to know that you’re not alone.
隐藏情绪是很难的事情，所以和你信赖的人谈论自己的尴尬时刻。与其感觉尴尬，不如告诉他们你的困扰。这样总是能帮助你，获得支持和换个角度看待问题，这或许能鼓励你在消极的情况下寻找一些积极的方面。事实上你信赖的那个人或许也会分享他们的尴尬事同样发生在他们身上的事情。知道自己并不孤独是一种解脱。
6.Try again.
6. 再试一次。
You might dread going back to the same place and seeing the same people who were there when you embarrass yourself. But be brave and face them. If you continue to build walls in front of you, the situation will only haunt you longer. Others will also detect the awkwardness you are projecting when you avoid them, which will make it hard for them to forget about it, too. It might not be easy when you first step in again and go on with your normal routine. But progress can’t be made without starting over. Try again. You’ve got this.
你可能害怕回到同一个地方，看到在你尴尬时刻遇到的那群人。但你要勇敢去面对他们。如果你继续在自己面前建立一堵墙，那么情况只会持续更久。当你躲避尴尬时刻时，其他人还是会想起你的尴尬时刻，他们也会难以忘记这件事。按常规再次踏出第一步，继续下去或许很难，但是不再来一次就永远不会有进步。再试一次，你能行的！
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